Life under the roof.

You know I am truly happy with my life. Sometimes it feels like work but at the end of the day, when we lay down at night, I truly feel like I did when I knew I loved him. It feel so brand new, everyday. Sometimes (during the day), I feel like I want to let go but then my heart will tighten up because I cannot imagine my future without him. This is the easy part. I am getting close to the harder part. Step-parenting.



In a few short months we will have another person in the home with us. I am so nervous about this because in my mind, I want to parent like I have always parented but is that realistic? Can I do the same things with her that I do with my children. She is older and some of her habits are already established so what do you do if those habits are not what is allowed in our home. How much support with I get from my husband or how much with he support the rules for children in the home. I want her to be happy here because I know this is a huge change for her.

These are some of the things that are bothering me right now. Space is another. I look at this situation like this, she should have her own space and not have to borrow space from other people in the house. I again want to make her transition from her culture to this country as smooth as possible. She will have to make new friends go to a different type of school and last but definitely not least she is going to have to get used to these children. Whew! Good luck with that one. My children are funny and my boys have this bad habit of "play" fighting. We were sitting in a resturant the other night and my daughter said something to him and he got up and "play" slapped her. We started laughing but I can only imagine what the people in the restuarant were thinking. I was like, "these fools are going to get me in trouble." They (as well as many siblings in this country) are like that but I can just imagine the shock on this child's face when they do something out of the way.

Maybe I am worried for nothing. I am a worrier when it comes to things like that so I guess I should just take one day at a time.

My oldest child has almost completed his first year in college. I am proud of his ability to maintain his grades while becoming aclamated to life outside of home. Although when he come home, he reverts back to his at home habits. He has grown though. I will give him that.

Oh, well. This is my life under the one roof. Kinda, got some insominia from springing forward.

Meet Mrs. Boamah

Well, it is kinda funny how I have not blogged for over a year when 2010 brought the most changes in my life. Several things happened last year. I finished school and I got married. Both were changes that made me a better person. I did not think my life could make such improvements but it did. Finishing school gave me the biggest sense of accomplishment I have had since giving birth to my children. I felt like I did something. If you ever have one of those "things" you wish you could do or finish then you know how it feels to wake up everyday wanting to do that certain something. Mine was school. As hard as it got and as late I had to stay up, I wanted more than anything to finish. I feel like I helped my future.

My second change was that I became Mrs. Alexander Boamah and I learned what unconditional love, best friend and acceptance TRULY means. This man has helped me to see the best in myself, to go back to church and have faith in the Lord and to love my family. He doesn't make me happy, he adds to it in ways I did not think it was possible. He has taught me that it is okay to disagree as long as at the end of the day, you are still loving each other. Ever have someone believe in you? The goals you have for yourself, they are there for you. Some of the those frustrating school days were doable because of him. I remember him helping with my statistics class. He would listen to my chats with me and then help me to understand it. I remember when he felt like I wasn't getting my work done at home he would take me to the library so I could get my assignments completed. Funny, I did not spend that much time in the library when I was in school. He was patient when I was not and he was hopeful when I gave up. He always knew it would be okay, even when I could not see it. I did not think I would be deserving of a person like him in my life but I thank God everyday for him. His love is never ending and he loves all of me not just the "good parts." That's a lot of love.

This year we will start bringing our family together and it is going to be a new experience for us all. I am a little behind in my blogging but I do hope to talk about the changes that will come in the future. Good, not so good and sometimes downright ugly. We were hoping to have that family portrait by the summer but it may have to wait a little while longer. That's okay, I promise when we get that portrait done I will be able to show the world the best part of my life - family.

Peace.