I went to a skating party sponsored by the local radio station, Power94. It was an old skool party for ages 25 and up. I had a great time, although I was sore as hell because I have not skated in a couple of years. All the old music from my day was played. The rap groups of Whoduni, UTFO and all of them. The guys that used to really skate was there and believe it or not they, unlike myself, have not lost a step. Decked out in black they ruled the skating rink. It was good to watch. The only thing that happened was I took a look around and noticed that as a forty year old single black female, my choices of men in this city is slim to none. It was an eye opener because I have not stopped to really see if there were any men that would be attractive to me in this time of my life. The decent looking ones were with their female counterparts or they were too young for me. I am not limiting myself to men my age but I do believe under 30 is a bit too young. That is my personal opinion.
I have made a decision that is going to change my life and hopefully my future. I have decided to leave Chattanooga, TN. The skating rink was not the sole reason for this decision but I believe it had a big impact. I grew up here and I will always love this city but I honestly believe I need a change. I will not make any decisions right now because I still have to educate my children and my daughter is in an elite college preparatory school that is a great opportunity that I am not willing to take from her but she has about five years left and that will give me enough time to prepare for this change. So as of today, I am giving myself about 61 months to first decide where I want to go and second to prepare for this change.
My first order of business is to complete school which I am currently doing and that will be old news by the time I am ready to go. The second decision is where I want to go. I have two cities I am looking at for different reasons and I will visit one next month. Dallas, TX is the home of a long time friend that I have not seen in 14 years. I will going there and while I am there I am going to look around. My current employer have an office in this city so that is one option. The next city is Charlotte, which I have heard is a great place for black professionals and another city my current employer is located. I have not figured out when I am going to visit this city but it will be within the next 61 months. Maybe I will take a fall vacation, I don't know but I will get there. In the meantime, I will stay focused on task number one: school.
I am not going to eliminate the chance that a major force may keep me here but it will have to be major. My children will be grown and starting lives on their own and I have always taught them that where ever I am is home. A house is a roof and four walls but Mom is home. I will try and keep my blog posted with the events that will lead up to this move so let the count down begin...
